The receiving end of child care

As a soon-to-be working mom, I need to explore who is going to take care of my child while I'm at work. I've begun thinking about getting a nanny or possibly going with a child care center. I've been on the other side of child care quite a bit in my life, from being a child care provider to being an advocate for child care expansion and affordability. I knew the issues exist, such as high cost and long wait lists. It sure makes it all that much more real, though, when this is now my issue to find a solution.

Since I have been both a child care teacher at a day care and worked as a nanny, I feel as though I have some insight into the type of care I would like. I would prefer a nanny, at least for the first year, as she could provide individual attention. I would also be able to keep my child at home in a setting familiar for him/her. Day cares try to get all the kids on the same schedule, and this can be hard on a little one. I haven't found that infants really care to interact with other babies, rather they just want to be held and fed. After looking at this option, though, I have realized that having a nanny is quite expensive.

So, I decided to call some child care centers to look for infant care, even though this is not my preference. My first stumbling block occurred when I found out that many child care centers do not provide care until age 2 1/2. This is obviously not helpful. What do families do for the first 2 1/2 years? I finally got a place on the phone that does provide infant care but come to find out they have a wait list til October 2012. I wondered how this is even possible. Do they reserve spots for kids before they are even born? To even be put on a wait list, I would have to give a non-refundable deposit. I would like to get on multiple wait lists so that way I can take advantage of the first spot that opens. Having to put a non-refundable deposit down really limits that possibility. I also feel like my situation could change before October 2012. Maybe I will decide I want a place close to my house.. wherever that would be. I was also not happy to find out that this particular place did not offer part-time care for infants. I'm hoping to work from home part-time or go in late so we don't need full-time care. She stated they only offer full-time care for infants because of the difficult transitions. Now, I know this is complete bull as I have provided care for infants before. Infants adjust better than older kids with multiple care-takers. It is not typically until they are 2 or 3 that they start to get upset when they are dropped off at day care. And to make things worse, I asked about scheduling a tour and she told me that tours are scheduled between 9-3:30 Monday-Friday. Now, if I could come in during those times I would probably not be looking for child care in the first place. In conclusion, after this one phone call, I think I will look more into getting a nanny.

One option I have been thinking about is looking for a nanny-share, where I would share a nanny with one or more families. We would alternate homes or just pick one to do the care. This seems to make having a nanny a little more affordable. While it seems extremely late in the game to look for a child care center, it is too early to find a nanny. Most nannies are looking to get hired right away. I'm just wondering, though, if I need to start looking at child care centers now for when my child is 2 years old. Oh goodness, the decisions never end.